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Infidelity Therapy Affair Recovery Counseling in Montclair NJ 

You CAN heal your relationship after infidelity!

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Infidelity Recovery Therapy

Heal Physical and

Emotional Affairs

Experiences Counselors & Therapists

in Montclair Essex County NJ.

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Infidelity Recovery Therapy Heal Physical and Emotional Affairs

Experiences Counselors & Therapists in Montclair Essex County NJ.

Infidelity Therapy and Affair Recovery Counseling can help the relationship and BOTH partners 

For the partner who is experiencing the betrayal:

Emotionally Focused Therapy can:

  • Help you understand what happened in a safe and structured way so you don’t feel overwhelmed by your emotions and needs for answers

  • Identify your vicious cycle of interaction with your spouse to effectively de-escalate your conflict when you attempt to have a conversation about what happened

  • Help you to address the infidelity directly to work together instead of against each other

  • Manage anger and other difficult feelings when you are triggered 

  • Identify what needs to be done to rebuild trust, safety, and security.

For the partner who participated in an outside relationship

Emotionally Focused Therapy can:

  • Help you with full disclosure is the best road to protect, not destroy, your marriage

  • Identify ways to prevent shame and guilt from prompting you to shut down and withdraw in difficult conversations 

  • Help you to let go of shame so you can engage openly with your partner

  • Communicate your sense of remorse successfully with your partner to cultivate acceptance and forgiveness

  • Help your spouse heal and rebuild trust and security with you 

  • Create a closer connection with your partner even when you face shame and other difficult emotions

Our Experienced Marital Therapists and Relationship Counselors have extensive experience in a highly effective form of therapy. Emotionally Focused Therapy has been demonstrated to help couples recover from infidelity and create a stronger bond and more satisfying relationship.

The Pain of Infidelity

Infidelity is devastating. Physical affairs, emotional infidelity, extra-marital relationships whether in-person or online is a trauma and a shock.  It can feel like your whole world has fallen apart in that single moment of discovery. It may feel impossible for you to have a clear sense of what to do and how to heal such a deep betrayal feeling like you may never be able to trust again. You are. not alone. . 

Dr. DeCandia discusses the emotional impact of infidelity

Post Infidelity Trauma

So often I hear people say they feel "crazy" or "out of control." One minute they feel love and hope - "We are going be ok!" and the next..."I hate you - how could you have done this!" It is a cycle that is real, exhausting and confusing. Some patients report "flashbacks" to messages they may have read, or places where their partner has betrayed them. This is your nervous system reacting to a sudden traumatic event which infidelity absolutely is.

Dr. DeCandia explains
Post Infidelity Traumatic
Stress Reactions 

We have been providing high quality therapy services including couples therapy, marriage counseling, pre-marital therapy, family therapy, individual counseling for depression, anxiety, grief and bereavement, miscarriage & pregnancy loss and infidelity. Our services are available in-person and online for those based in NJ, NY, NYC and Connecticut via FaceTime, Zoom, Telehealth,  and Teletherapy. Our services extend throughout NY, NJ, NYC & CT and service Montclair, Maplewood, Millburn, Summit, Chatham, Short Hills, Livingston, Essex Fells, West Orange, South Orange, Glen Ridge, Nutley, Bloomfield, Saddle River, Fair Lawn and more. Our Montclair office is conveniently located near zip codes 07042, 07043, 07040, 07041, 07901, 07902, 07928, 07932, 07078, 07039, 07021, 07006, 07052, 07079, 07056, 07110, 07003, 07410, 07458.  We provide teletherapy to Greenwich CT 06830, Darien 06820, Westport 06897, New Canaan 06940, Staten Island 10314, New York City 10021, 10028, 10065, 10075, 10128, 10162, 10029.

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Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling

Couples therapy, also known as relationship counseling or marriage counseling, can help you address issues impacting your relationship such as: intimacy, communication, finances, conflict resolution and so much more

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Get the Spark Back in your Marriage 

Sex Therapy can help restore Intimacy

address sexual concerns,  and enhance overall sexual health. Whether you're experiencing issues like low libido, performance anxiety, or difficulty communicating desires, an experienced counselor can help

Specialized Marriage Counseling in NJ

Couples Marital Therapist Essex County in Montclair

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Marriage Counseling with an experience therapist can help improve communication, change negative patterns, help express anger, express frustration and other difficult emotions. We can help Individuals and couples recover from infidelity and trust issues that can cause you to feel stuck. We can help you decide whether to stay together or to separate, help with parenting and help with major life transitions such as divorce, re-marriage, empt nest and starting your family

We offer marriage counseling & couples therapy, individual, family & group therapy. 

We specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy - EFT which has demonstrated unprecedented success in multiple studies world-wide to help infidelity recovery, improve communication, reduce conflict, alleviate depression & anxiety, help distressed families going through a divorce or remarriage, grief counseling, infertility & pregnancy loss. We have helped people in this community for over 20 years and

we can help you too! 

From Nicholas DeMetro, ESQ. Montclair, NJ

I have been a Divorce Attorney and Mediator for over 25 years. When a couple comes to me and there is a chance their marriage might be saved...I send them directly to Angela DeCandia. She is a compassionate, engaging, talented couple therapist with unprecedented success. She has helped couples with the most challenging situations. I highly recommend Angela. 

 

From S & J - Maplewood, NJ

​We started working with Angela shortly after learning of my husband's infidelity.  I thought there was no way to recover.  The work we did with Angela was transformative. I can honestly say that we did more than rebuild trust - we were able to rebuild the foundation of our marriage, learn how we got to where we did and become closer as a result. I cannot say enough. 

From L & J - New York, NY

Angela has a very special approach to working with grief - especially the loss of a child which she helped us understand - is different.  Our loss was overwhelming and tearing us apart. We learned to take space and have compassion for each other since wee grieved in such different ways. It's hard to describe. She helped us individually and integrated the individual grief work into our couples' work. Step by step -day by day - we are healing.

© 2004 - 2025 Dr. Angela DeCandia - Essex Cousneling all rights reserved. We have been providing high quality therapy services including couples therapy, marriage counseling, pre-marital therapy, family therapy, individual counseling for depression, anxiety, grief and bereavement, miscarriage & pregnancy loss and infidelity. Our services are available in-person and online for those based in NJ, NY, NYC and Connecticut via FaceTime, Zoom, Telehealth,  and Teletherapy. Our services extend throughout NY, NJ, NYC & CT and service Montclair, Maplewood, Millburn, Summit, Chatham, Short Hills, Livingston, Essex Fells, West Orange, South Orange, Glen Ridge, Nutley, Bloomfield, Saddle River, Fair Lawn and more. Our Montclair office is conveniently located near zip codes 07042, 07043, 07040, 07041, 07901, 07902, 07928, 07932, 07078, 07039, 07021, 07006, 07052, 07079, 07056, 07110, 07003, 07410, 07458.  We provide teletherapy to Greenwich CT 06830, Darien 06820, Westport 06897, New Canaan 06940, Staten Island 10314, New York City 10021, 10028, 10065, 10075, 10128, 10162, 10029.

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